The difference between sex and gender

Many people assume that sex and gender mean the same thing, but nothing could be further from the truth! Why is it important to understand that there is a difference? Because one is about your biological sex – hormones, glands, genitalia – and the other is about the cultural and societal expectations based on their sex.

Sex
When we talk about sex, we’re not just referring to what’s between your legs. We’re talking about everything in and on your body that relates to it. This includes things like sex chromosomes, sex glands, hormones, and both internal and external genitalia. These elements together make up what we call ‘sex.’ It’s called ‘sex assigned at birth’ because it refers to what was observed on the day you were born. It has nothing to do with how you feel inside.

In our society, we often see sex as a binary concept: male and female. However, this isn’t true for everyone. Around 1 in 100 people have an intersex variation, which is not exclusively ‘male’ or ‘female.’ For intersex people, there’s a variation in one or more of the aspects that determine sex during childhood development.

Gender
Gender refers to the expectations society has, based on our sex. Our society is built on gender roles and norms, which people are expected to follow. These roles and norms are often unspoken, but we all feel them. For example, only women wear skirts, dresses, or nail polish, while men wear pants. Men don’t shave their legs, but women are expected to. Women are supposed to be modest, while men are expected to be assertive. Women don’t poop, men do – and even share pictures of it with their friends. There are so many gender expectations that we continue to uphold in 2024. How suffocating! Would you like to know more about how to break these norms? Or do you want to understand more about your gender identity, expression, and how people perceive you? Then be sure to read our blog “What is the difference between gender identity, gender expression, and gender perception?”