Gender identity, gender expression and gender perception

Gender refers to the cultural and societal expectations placed on us based on our sex. Our world is built around traditional gender roles, which are expectations about how you should behave based on your sex. However, many people want to step outside these expectations. They may not identify with or may even strongly reject the expectations society places on them based on their sex. These people often identify as transgender and/or non-binary.

What is your gender identity?
Your gender identity describes your internal experience of being a man, a woman, a non-binary person, or something else. Everyone experiences gender differently, and it isn’t something you can always understand just by looking at someone.

There are three main types of gender identities:
– Cisgender: You are cisgender if your gender identity matches the sex you were assigned at birth.
– Transgender (binary): You are transgender (binary) if your gender identity is the opposite of the sex you were assigned at birth. This includes trans men and trans women.
– (Transgender) Non-binary: This is an umbrella term for people with a gender identity and/or expression outside the male/female binary. Examples of gender identities under this umbrella include genderfluid, genderqueer, polygender, bigender, demigender, and agender.

What is gender expression?
Gender expression refers to how you present or express your gender, including your appearance, clothing, hairstyle, and behaviour. You have some control over your gender expression, depending on your resources and environment. However, this doesn’t mean that your gender expression has to fit into the traditional binary gender expectations.

What is gender perception?
Gender perception is how people perceive and evaluate each other’s gender and bodies. Unlike gender expression, we can’t control how others perceive us. We see gender based on a variety of visual and social cues. In addition to your gender expression, physical characteristics and the social roles you take on also influence how people perceive your gender.

The stereotypical binary view of how a man or woman should be can sometimes take over our minds. This often leads to assumptions being made, which frequently results in misgendering trans and non-binary people.

How do you let go of your gender perception?
To let go of your gender perception, it’s important to train yourself to avoid making assumptions about people’s gender. You can’t always tell someone’s gender just by looking at them, just like we don’t know someone’s name when we first meet them. So you can simply ask for their pronouns. It’s important to remember and use people’s pronouns correctly. Struggling to do this? Check out our blog “What to do if you misgender someone?”

The big LGBTQIA+ alphabet
You may sometimes feel overwhelmed by all the letters in the rainbow acronym — why do we have so many labels? And why does one person use them, while another doesn’t? The simple answer is this: the words we use shape the world we live in. If we can use words to describe who we are, we can better understand ourselves, and others can too. To help create awareness, understanding, and acceptance around gender, these labels are important. They give us a tool to educate and communicate. Without these words, we wouldn’t be able to explain who we are as clearly.